''Impossible is just an opinion'' Paulo Coelho.
Do you ever wonder if there is anything you can do individually, other than washing your hands, to improve state of things in 2020? If you do not have time to read the lengthy monologue ( appears that I am not a woman of few words...)skip to the last paragraph, where a simple EXERCISE is proposed to change what is.
A carefully controlled scientific demonstration, called Washington study, was carried between June 7 and July 30, 1993. A group of transcended meditation practitioners 🧘🧘was meditating in Washington D.C. and at the same time scientists were measuring effects of this meditation on social trends in the city. Since beginning of the year, the violent crimes rate has been steadily increasing. A week or so after the beginning of the study, violent crimes began decreasing and continued to drop until the end of the experiment, the maximum impact was an unprecedented, 23.3% decrease in crime rate. The probability that this was simply a coincidence is two in a billion. Once the study was over, crime rate started increasing again. Study demonstrated that the intentional state of peace of group of individuals, has impacted others in the city in a positive way.
How does this relate to 2020? If conscious intent makes the word a better place , I would say it works the other way as well, negative thoughts=negative outcomes.
It is fair to say, that most of us have been traumatized by 2020 in one way or another. As we are expecting the other shoe to drop, it will inevitably drop, something else happens. Our expectations lead to the expected results. Just as meditation brought peace to Washington, our anxiousness could bring more unpleasant surprises. How do we get out from this vicious cycle?
Vicious cycle is broken once trauma of the original event, ‘’ the wound’’ has been processed. On individual level it looks like this: person has been through a traumatic event, and it has not been processed. Let's say, as a result of this event, this person feel that this world is not a safe place. Since the original event has not been processed, they will tend to recreate the same feeling of not being safe with money i.e. money always leaves me, or their body, i.e. I can not trust my body to keep me healthy, over and over again in different aspects of their life. For this state to change, the individual has to process the original trauma, the feeling of not being safe. Forgive whoever they have to forgive and bless them on their way. I did not say it was easy, but it is a necessary catalyst for change.
In my humble opinion, to see our world change, work on personal level has to be done to release trauma of 2020, whether it has been about fear of death or sickness, financial worries or outrage at injustice etc. Each of us need to process these feelings for this tide to turn around. Chances are, that processing trauma of 2020, will bring you to earlier events in your life. Everything is indeed connected. 2020 did not appear out of thin air.
There are so many modalities out there to release trauma: meditation, yoga, exercise, shamanic journeys, tapping, working with psychologist, energy medicine etc., find what works for you. I do believe that collectively we can manifest much better, but each of us needs to do our own work. You will know that you have released trauma, when you think about the event , COVID for example, and you do not have strong negative feeling, such as fear about it.
On the same note, we create through our thoughts every second of the day. I invite you to envision how you want the rest of 2020 to be, do not go into your darkest predictions, but into your best wishes. If our world were a person, what would you wish them? Maybe it is economic prosperity or health or justice for all. Go with your whole heart into it. Do not worry yourself with HOW it will happen, just envision WHAT you want it to be. Below is an simple exercise that helps me to envision the future.
This is an EXERCISE, I do for myself and with clients. I am often amazed how well this works to bring forward the desired outcome. No fancy equipment is needed, just pen and paper, accomplished in two steps.
First, think about a particular result that you would like to see happen and why it will be the best course of action.
Second, write down a gratitude in the past tense about ( as if it has already happened) for the envisioned result along with why this works.
Here is an example: I am grateful that US election occurred smoothly and the best man for the job has been elected BECAUSE it will bring justice, stability, prosperity and peace to the world. Here is another one: I am grateful we do not have to worry about COVID, BECAUSE we have an effective preventative treatment for it. Remember, do not worry about HOW something will change, put out there WHAT you need/want with gratitude and your reasons for it .Yes, I do believe that collectively, we are creating at each moment of our lives, we might as well do it consciously to bring desired outcomes.
The only other thing I can say is be gentle with yourself and others. Each of us messes up, just do not forget to give yourself another chance.
You've got it all wrong.
You didn't come here to master unconditional love. This is where you came from and where you'll return.
You came here to learn personal love.
Infused with divinity.
Lived through the grace of stumbling.
Demonstrated through the beauty of... messing up.
You didn't come here to be perfect, you already are.
You came here to be gorgeously human. Flawed and fabulous.
And rising again into remembering.
But unconditional love? Stop telling that story.
Love in truth doesn't need any adjectives.
It doesn't require modifiers.
It doesn't require the condition of perfection.
It only asks you to show up.
And do your best.
That you stay present and feel fully.
That you shine and fly and laugh and cry and hurt and heal and fall and get back up and play and work and live and die as YOU.
-Courtney A. Walsh
Life is full of so many emotions joy, sadness, love, vulnerability and... anger. We are taught how to read and do math in school, however forgiveness is not on the curriculum.
Some anger starts inside of us, we deal with its and goes out, it is healthy and normal. However some of it just lingers and we live with it for years. Consciously or unconsciously, we make decisions from the place of anger and in a way it runs our life.
A Buddhist teaching says that holding to anger, you are similar to a man who wants to hit another and picks up a burning ember, he burns himself first.
There is an easy way to forgive and to let go of the anger. It is Hawaiian healing process called ho'oponopono.
Hold person or event that makes you angry in your thoughts and say:
I am sorry,
Please forgive me,
And I love you.
Continue saying it, out loud or in your head until it feels better. Believe me, this works. Yes, you say it in this way even if you feel that all that has happened is the other persons fault. Interestingly enough, sometimes people who have offended you come to you with an apology. It creates a shift.
Once you get rid of anger, it is a whole new game. Please do report back.
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Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life? —Mary Oliver
What if you can have a life that you have dreamed of when you were a child? Before all the cynicism and disappointments have come into your life. With emotional baggage, that we are carrying around, it is hard to come back to the place of thriving. We are in a survival mode instead.
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Many would agree that being a parent is definitely the most amazing and most challenging job there is. Challenge for me has been separating what I want for them from what they came here to learn and be. I believe that our children have chosen us as parents, even in our darkest hours. Following poem helps me to keep perspective and remember, that all I can do is change myself and the rest will follow.
On Children by Kahlil Gibran
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.
You are the bows from which your children as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.
Hi, I am Oksana, mom, daughter, wife, holistic practitioner and a dreamer. My goal is to help my family and my clients to live better lives through working with their unconscious mind. I strongly believe in the work I do since I have experienced changes from this work in my life.